Struggling with any addiction can feel like being trapped in a really dark, painful, lonely place. Doing the same things over and over again, though it never seems to get any better. And when you finally try to get out, there's so much shame and stigma that it gets really hard to ask for help and figure out how.
It's trauma and pain that got you into this place; it's healing and connection that can help you leave it behind.
We want to hear everything you have to say. We want to understand what it's like to be you. We want to help you hurt less. We want to show you that we care and there's nothing "wrong" with you.
You're full of anxiety, and it feels like asking for help and support is a burden on others. You want to talk about what happened to you, but it gets hard to believe anybody wants to hear you. You so badly want to feel better; you want to get out of the pit you feel stuck in. Care, support, and being heard can help you get out, so that's exactly what we offer.
We understand that each person has their own journey, and while no journey is the same, no journey is without hardships. Even when things start to change a little, it doesn't mean the pain is instantly gone. The pain of our past, the pain of dealing with our anxieties and our day-to-day lives, and the pain of trying to live the future we want for ourselves.
We are here to listen to you and support you on your long, hard road.
Hard Road Counselling | Addiction and Trauma Counselling in Vancouver, BC
In 2014, Bill and Syler met at Adler University. Both coming from a psychology background, they attended Adler to study the psychology behind counselling. They realised they both shared the ideal that counselling is a process of embarking on a journey with people. A journey of discovery, exploring ways that we are and have been. A journey of laughter, finding the courage to be our true selves, experiencing our joy. And a journey of pain, exploring the ways we've been hurt and how we still hurt. And through it all, we, as therapists, acknowledge we are there only to support and accompany someone.
We are not "experts" on anyone else. We have a great deal of training and experience and can easily offer help with however pain is manifesting itself for someone - but we can't "know" what would work in someone's life. You are the greatest expert of your own life - only you can know what you like and what makes you feel better.
In the years after graduation, Bill and Syler have worked with many people struggling with addiction, and noticed a great deal of people are forgotten in public, mental health systems. They fall through the cracks as they receive a little treatment, things get a little better, and then they no longer meet the "diagnostic criteria" - but people still hurt and are still forced to carry heavy loads by themselves!
In 2018, Bill and Syler founded Hard Road Counselling to address this issue specifically and to offer help to anyone who wants to lighten their weight.
Everyone deserves to feel good about themselves. Everyone deserves not to hurt. Everyone deserves to feel comfortable in their own skin and happy with their life.
"People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don't find myself saying, "Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner." I don't try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds.”
Carl R. Rogers
About Our Approach
We get it; life is hard, confusing and exhausting enough!
The constant battle to get to where we want to be in life - the fight to get the job/partner/income/living space/status/resources/respect that we want in our lives. We know that fight because we've fought it, too. Wouldn't it be nice to be able to learn to relax and not have to fight to be heard?
We want to hear you. To listen to what's going wrong in your life, but also to listen to what's going right. To hear how you've been struggling, what you've been doing well, and what might be added to tailor a plan that works for you, because it was designed by you.
You do things well and we want to celebrate you, but you want to change some things in your life. We have some things that might be added, but you choose what would help.
Our whole philosophy is built around hearing you.